Sunday, 7 December 2014, 13:02
Hotel has been booked, so are the tickets. I am excited for the holiday. i need a gateway, away from here. After which, a suprise staycation for the parents for their 25th Anniversary. Happy advance 2 decades and 5 years together, ibu and ayah! Heh. Right after that, would be another staycation with the girlfriends. Awesomeness!
Recently, I heard many break-up stories, either from family members, friends, acquaintances or strangers. I may not be in their shoe to fully understand but i somehow understood the sadness they feel. It's not a nice feeling having to lose someone you love, the one you have been with for long and going through so many things together. Many said the longer you are with each other, the deeper the hurt will be. This statement, I would rebut totally. Personally, I feel time is not a factor. You may even be with someone for just 3 months but the quality is what matters. Quality includes the chemistry, the bond, the telepathy etc. And that, Quality may most likely overpower the Quantity.
Things happened for a reason. Allah swt would not shoulder his people with problems unless he knows it's meant the best for them. It is utterly sad knowing that a close friend had gone through a break up despite the plan of tying the sacred knot next year. More sad when we were all excited for the coming. However, I believe there is a reason behind the tragedy. My advice is to see this break up as a sign of self-improvment... as a light guiding through the way out from the current dim tunnel. Take this as an opportunity to learn independence and step up from the current level to the highest possible. Sometimes in life, you cant achieve happiness from one element (which probably through relationship), but you can always attain the happiness through other ways, such as be that person where you can carve a smile on another.. I'm sure having to see a smile on another's countenance is a joyous feeling you can ever feel. In turn, this would definitely instill a realization to you that life is not just about yourself and with God will's, this will also pull you closer to the creator, for all feelings you feel is from Him.
At times, you need to feel a deep level of hurt in order to change... or rather accept change. With change, you never know where it will lead you to. It might lead you to betterment. Always one would feel resistance to change because they are too comfortable with where they are standing. As no doubt, change may be hassle, but that is only in the beginning. Reminisce back those days when you had just started at where your current place is, wasnt it a hassle too? :)
I hope for those who are had recently gone through any kind of separation, don't lose hope, instill faith. You're stronger than that. And this will definitely make you stronger and improve you personally. In Shaa Allah.
